Dirty talk in bed
This was not the first time we used this kind of vocabulary in bed. Quite the opposite.
Xander and I both love languages and sexual provocation in equal measures. There are only few taboos we haven’t trespassed in bed together – and swearing at each other is not one of them.
It might sound like a paradox, but I assure you that all the swearing happens in an atmosphere of mutual respect and utmost attentiveness. We are not particularly foul-mouthed in our everyday life and we never-ever use heavy words against each other.
During dirty talk in bed we never set out to hurt or actually degrade each other and we never refer to any sensitive issues between us. It just wouldn’t work for us.
Xander being a gentleman in bed, however, he still checked with me afterwards whether I was still comfortable with the turn the evening had taken. It’s one of the many reasons why I love him – he manages to pull my hair, call me his bitch AND make me feel loved and safe while doing it. How good is that!
“Was it ok for you, baby? I hope I didn’t go too far or insult you in any way?
I smiled at my lover. “You know I like it when you talk dirty.”
Why is cursing in bed so exciting?
Now, before you dismiss us as perverts, let me share with with you the following:
- we are definitely not the only loving couple who swears at each other during sex. In fact, lots of people declare to be extremely turned on by cursing in bed. Presumably, the ones who declare otherwise, just don’t dare to admit it…
- there is a perfectly sound psychological explanation for cursing in bed.
You see, modern research seems to indicate that swearing is controlled by the deeper part of our brain, known as the limbic system, which is also the part of the brain where our instincts and emotions derive from.
Moreover, researchers theorize that the act of swearing relieves stress and blows off steam, just like crying does for small children. It makes sense that if swearing provides an outlet for strong emotions, we are more inclined to use it during orgasm and sex.
And then, of course, there is the thrill of breaking a taboo – the one of using words forbidden to us since childhood – which never fails to excite.