In life, many people in order to get the recognition of others, at the expense of changing themselves to please others, but in the end only to find that, despite the loss of individuality to get the recognition, but also did not get the inner pleasure and satisfaction.
As a writer said: we have been so looking forward to the recognition of the outside world, and finally realized that the world is their own, has nothing to do with others.
Instead of being judged by others, we should love ourselves in our own lives.
Not to please others, not to please the world, not to dwell on the past, not to wait for tomorrow.
Don’t be in a hurry to deny yourself in life, think about it, between heaven and earth, such as their own people, unique, so why not treat yourself well?
I believe we all have such feelings:
Get an inadvertent praise, can be happy for a long time, even if it is later recalled, is also sweet.
This kind of praise from others, as if it is a touch of ordinary life, to bring pleasure to their own mood.
There are also people who are sad because they don’t get appreciated from time to time, and thus doubt themselves, but it doesn’t really matter much.
When there is such a thought, may as well tell yourself: to be loved is a blessing, self-love is this.
Other people’s appreciation or praise is certainly delightful, but their own recognition of themselves, more recommendable.
If you can meet someone who loves you, that is your own blessing, if not, then learn to love yourself.
On the way to buy yourself a bouquet of flowers that are not expensive, watch a favorite movie, eat a big meal that you have been thinking about for a long time ……
There are many ways to love yourself, even the little things that come with it can fill the monotonous life with rituals and restore the mood.
When you reach a certain age, you will understand that pleasing yourself is more important than anything else.
Some time ago, 51-year-old Huang Xinsheng from Changsha, Hunan Province was on fire.
A sanitation worker who lives with the dust every day has written 300 poems and novels in four years.
Before she became famous, some people said she was so old, why write poems?
In the face of these gossip, Huang Xinxin laughed it off, and every day when she had free time with books, as soon as she had an idea, she used pen and paper to depict it, never stop, and lasted for many years.
She said, no matter what others think, I think reading books and writing poems is very happy, and this is enough.
A wise man pleases himself, a fool pleases others.
Life is just a few decades, if you are struggling to seek the approval of others, it is too tiring.
No one was born to pander to the world, and everyone has the right to choose the good.
Never forget that pleasing yourself is better than pleasing others.
We cannot please the whole world, but we can please ourselves.
Between pleasing the world and pleasing herself, Yu Xiuhua chose the latter without hesitation.
Just after she published her poems, they attracted a great deal of discussion:
Some said: can this be called poetry?
Others said, Don’t write it, no one wants to read this kind of thing!
In the face of this overwhelming skepticism, she responded in this way: my poetry is only to please myself, it has nothing to do with you.
Standing in Yu Xiu-hua’s point of view, her life is free and beautiful; standing in the point of view of the onlookers, Yu Xiu-hua’s lifestyle does not get their approval.
But what does the view of the onlookers have to do with Yu Xiuhua?
Nowadays, Yu Xiuhua is still writing in her favorite way, while the bystanders have disappeared without a trace.
Everyone has a different way of life, and what you like is the best.
Once a person caters to other people’s eyes for a long time, no matter whether he or she will be recognized or not, the characteristics of his or her own body will slowly disappear.
On the contrary, the more you love yourself, do not deliberately cater to please others, often can live a wonderful life.
Bi Shumin said: waiting for others to love you, rather than their own efforts to love themselves.
Don’t wait until you are tired to know that you are good to yourself, don’t wait until you are hurt to know that you are the most important.
It is never too early or too late to please yourself.
Life is short, do not because of something or someone and self internal consumption, living in the eyes of others is the source of suffering.
Learn to please yourself, find yourself on the flash point, so that you can live a good life.